Sunday, September 27, 2009

Pondering the existence of a "soul mate"

I wonder if people really do have a soul mate. That one person that will compliment your life in ways you never anticipated it being complimented. I’ve never felt like I have met someone who could fit that bill for me and I don’t think I’m the only person who hasn’t. Sure I’ve been in love before but the whole time I knew that they were not who I considered to be my Prince Charming. Never a love so strong I felt as if I would take a bullet for them, that if they were gone from my life I would stop breathing. Some people never meet that one person they completely mesh with. They may marry and grow old with someone and they may in fact love them but they essentially just settled, holding true to the engrained belief that truly meeting the love of your life and having them captivate your heart is the stuff of fairy tales. Perhaps it is, perhaps it isn’t. Personally I’ve never met anyone that took my breath away the instant I first saw them, knowing from the moment that I locked eyes with them from across a crowded room that this was it. I have never felt like I was missing anything because of this and I’ve never felt particularly envious of those that had experienced those feelings. Honestly I have only crossed paths with a few people who have experienced this. The majority met their spouses in high school or college then went through the motions expected of marriage and children, watching them grow and leave the nest and then diligently watching their 401k until retirement. My older friends are currently at the retirement phase, my young friends are at the beginning of the journey but it’s essentially going to be the same resolution at the end. This doesn’t seem like living life to the fullest. I think that I would rather have just one day with someone that gave me the feelings described above; realizing that they were the one and no one would ever touch my life in that way again. Even if it was just for that one day, it would be better than spending a lifetime going through the motions expected by society with someone that may love me more than anything but they just aren’t that magic piece of the puzzle that is my life.


Pearl said...

I've had that feeling a number of times -- that eyes across the room thing.

But a soul mate? Not yet, no; and at this point, if I meet him, I'm thinking my husband will have something negative to say about it.



Tenacious Tess said...

Ha ha ha I love it Pearl!

Roshni Mitra Chintalapati said...

lovely, honest piece! I love it!!

Ellen said...

I had that feeling way back when. I was my early 20's and didn't appreciate it back then. He was prince charming. Now he has four kids, lives in another state and has his own life. Such is life. I believe I will have it that I know what it's worth.

The Artist Within Us said...

Permit me to be the first man to comment upon your contemplations of a 'soul mate'.

I believe this to be so and it has nothing to do do with that glance across the room when the eyes meet for the first time and are briefly fixed upon each other.

Though I have been married for twenty-one years now, have two beautiful children, I know the woman I was meant to be with is not sharing my life these days. It does not mean I do not love her, I just know had things been different twenty-three years ago, she and I would have married.

So why do I think she was my soul mate?

The list is far too long but here is one example, hand in fist.

Thank you for sharing

Tenacious Tess said...

You said that very well. Very well indeed.

Christine Gram said...

Who says you have to marry your soul mate? And who says that you're just going through the motions when you marry someone who does have that automatic deep connection with you. Lot of people say these things, do you believe them?